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Friday, September 28, 2012

Why Girls Shouldn't Pursue Guys

This is actually one of my favorite topics.. Should a girl pursue a guy?

...Unfortunately, almost every girl has probably done it at least once in their life. Fortunately girls, that is not how it should be. Guys should do it! I have many girlfriends that struggle with this.

Again and again, I've tried to convince my friends that they shouldn't even call or text the guy they're interested first. Call me crazy or old fashioned. I know it's the 21st century and all. Here are some thoughts and biblical verses for why I feel strongly about this.

God has wired men to be the pursuer and women to be the pursued....

                 Yep, guys are made to want to pursue us! They are designed to lead
                  and we should trust that they are in control. If he is interested,
                  he will make it happen. If the guy is not leading, how do you ever expect him to be a
                  leader in your family. So that means no calling, asking out or chasing the dude!

Trust me, I know it can be frustrating waiting around for the guy to pursue....
                 We have to realize it is on God's time. It might be two weeks, or two years down the road.
                 Give it time God is not only in control of you but the guy's heart too.
                 Proverbs 21:1 “The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; he turns it
                 wherever he will.” comforting! We have to allow the guy to do his job gals.

And what does loving God completely and unconditionally have anything to do with this....
                 Everything! If when you are single you are completely content with God's love
                 you don't have to search for a man's affection or seek 'worth' in any man.
                 Girls should feel like this --> Psalm 139:17-18 “How precious to me are your thoughts,
                 God! How vast is the sum of them! If I were to count them, they would outnumber the grains
                 of sand—when I awake, I am still with you”

Sometimes we do not know what is best for us...
                 But God does! As a matter of fact the heart can be deceiving, scary. It says in Jeremiah
                 17:9 “The  heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand
                 it?”...I've had it happen before. And he only has the best in mind for those who are patient
                 and wait. Which leads me to the fact...

We need protection....
                You feel in your heart it is right, only to find out later he
                 is not who God intended for you to be with. It is because he knows the heart of every guy,
                 he will protect you if that guy is not of him. So if the guy is not pursuing, maybe it is for
                 your protection. And we should be sure to guard our own hearts.
                 Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

I know it is difficult, trust me, I do! But I truly believe that if you follow all of this you won't find prince charming, but he will find you. ;)

I LOVE what Lisa Harper said at Women of Faith last weekend.."my husband is somewhere out there, he is just lost without a gps"...haha.


  1. Aeron,

    I saw on Facebook you had started this blog so I wanted to check it out! How amazing you are girl! Very encouraging words, I hope you continue this journey. Oh! the masses you can inspire! :-)
    P.S. It's been ages!

    1. I know it has been too long! Hope you are doing well! Glad you enjoyed the blog. :-) I hope it continues to inspire people.

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    1. I am so thrilled this post has given you light and the ability to make a sound decision, Jules. I hope you allow God to guide your decision and trust He has a plan for you.